The sudden, unexpected loss of my father last Saturday made everything in my life come to a hault.  He is in a better place, where he can rest freely in peace, now that his work on Earth is done.

Over the years, I’ve heard hundreds of excuses and stories as to why a Wedding wasn’t as successful as it should’ve been & a majority of them make me roll my eyes as if the bride, groom, parents & family members involved in the preparations are the victims here vs. the culprits that could’ve done a better job to guarantee the success as opposed to complaining after nothing more can be done; just vivid memories of what was done & what could’ve been done better.

As all of my clients know, the success of their Wedding is pretty easy to determine: Did everybody have a great time?  A majority of the time its a unanimous YES done.  If all the time, efforts  & preparation paid off…the results will speak for themselves, be clea, and all in attendance will be reflecting on all that they witnessed, were involved in & captured memories of.

Excuses, complaints & “what if…” type statements are nothing more than someone or group of people’s lack of integrity & commitment to do what it takes to make it a day to remember for their clients.  They are avoiding any type of responsibility whatsoever & more than likely blaming it on the client or some other ridiculous circumstance or situation.

When no corners are cut, done right with the appropriate team to represent you – the work, time & effort they put into making your day perfect will be done with heart & soul as professionals who take full responsibility for their efforts, talents & outcome of what you have them there to do.

The “black or white” of a Wedding is the results you personally feel, see & witness.  All the comments you hear, action in and around the dancefloor, and the overall general mood, feelings & atmosphere have a very important role in the creation of your Wedding results!

Just remember, don’t lie to yourself about making meaning into something that is not true.  The “gray” area is removed & doesn’t exist with statements including “but” or anything that doesn’t make make it clear.  The results of your special day are one or the other to each of your guests & can make your vendor decisions easy when they focus on the success & visualize the actions they are taking to give you the results that will last a lifetime!

Give your friends & family the experience you have had for their special day.

On with the fun,

Brian Kelm,
Wedding Dream Weaver & Master of “I Do”